Just Another Day...

Okay, so this entry's some sort of an outlet and clarification on some misconceptions and ideas about me and my use of Facebook and this blog account. Today, I received yet another phone call from a colleague at work. She was asking me about an FB post of mine about my staff who got into a fight. Not one to deny something I did, I said "Yes, I did. But which one are you referring and why?" She said that one of the characters in that story went to her and told her about it, but no other specifics were given.


Now here's the clarificatory part of this entry.


I am an active Facebook user and I write on this blog account on an average, 2-3 times a month. My FB account is used  basically for what it was intended to be by its creators: SOCIAL NETWORKING. I share a part of my life with the 306 people included in my FB network. These 306 people are the people whom I am comfortable with in sharing this so-called part of my life. These 306 people are composed of my family and relatives (some of whom, I have not seen in ages and probably would have not in contact with again if not for FB), friends from childhood, friends from high school, from college and from work. But as a personal policy, I DO NOT accept my bosses in my FB account. Wala lang, ayoko lang. Di lang ako komportable na ang mga boss ko ay nasa FB ko. Ito ang rin ang isang dahilan why I "un-friended" my staff on my FB account, which they later told me, they got hurt. Well, for that I already apologized.


My FB wall, as does this blog account, are what I consider MY own. I have been told that my FB wall has achieved some sort of "something to watch out for" status among friends. A friend at work has jokingly told me "mare, alam mo nag-e-FB lang ako just to check your posts, kasi nakaka-aliw and na-a-update ako sa mga nangyayari dito sa office thru your posts." I received other remarks as well, but mostly it boils down to that, "naaliw sila".  How do I take these remarks? Truthfully? I would just smile and say "thanks" or "okay".  I mean, what else is there to say? Some would ask me about my posts and if I think that they deserve an explanation from me, then I would. But otherwise, I'd just smile.


Also as another personal policy, bilang pag-galang na din sa identity ng mga taong tinutukoy ko, hindi ako naglalagay ng pangalan sa mga posts ko or entries ko, lalo't alam ko na wala akong pahintulot na ilagay ang mga pangalan nila, lalo na sa mga wall posts ko at yung inaaway ko. Ahahahaha!!! Pag positive ang message ko, then I do write their names. So if one will say "ouch!" by what I have written and you don't want other people in my network to know na ikaw nga yung tinutukoy ko, then I strongly suggest wag kang mag comment sa wall ko, send me a pm instead; or post an anonymous comment here in my blog. So you see, I just don't post or write without regard for other people's feelings and privacy, especially, those of my family and dearest friends. Also, if there are comments by my friends which I feel offensive din ang dating, I tell them not to be so brutal in their comments, I tell them to "behave" because I don't want them to get into trouble. 


Once I was asked, "are you comfortable posting or writing your thoughts on FB or on your blog?" Gosh! Gusto kong tuktukan yung nagtanung sa akin. If there's one thing that I am is that hindi ako ang taong napipilit. If you want, you can ask my Mom about this. Bata palang ako, I have my own mind already. Ang gusto ko, gusto ko. Ang ayaw ko, ayaw ko. I might reconsider but then again, mahaba-habang paliwanagan yun, bago magbago ang isip ko. So yeah, I am comfortable doing this. And yeah, I write, I post because first and foremost, I like sharing not just my thoughts, but even the blessings that I get in this life. Ang hindi ko lang sine-share ay toothbrush, undies, kutsara at tinidor na ginamit na ng iba or ginamit ko na, gamit na tissue, sanitary napkin at kung anumang ibang bagay na un-sanitary gamitin pag nagamit na ng iba, at higit sa lahat, BOYFRIEND!  Secondly, I write, I post because it is an outlet for me. Third, by writing and posting, I get other people's perspectives on things and then I LEARN from them (and hopefully, they learn from me as well), some sort of a way to reach out to others as well. 


Believe it or not, some people at work now knows pag mainit ang ulo ko because of my posts. Then they make iwas na. Hehehehehe. 


I appreciate it immensely if people will just directly ask me or tell me their opinions about my posts, rather than going to another person to discuss it. I mean, doing that will not give you the answer/s you're looking for, right? You got hurt or troubled by what I wrote or posted? Then tell ME about it. I know that I don't look approachable, so if you can't tell me personally, a private message would do just fine. For as long as it is addressed to ME, then I would give you an honest to goodness answer or even sincerely apologize if I hurt you with what I wrote or posted. Yes, mataray ako. Yes, maldita ako. But no, I am not an un-feeling bitch. 


So next time you have something to say or comment on my posts or blog entries, feel free to tell ME.