Today while at work, I bonded with a girlfriend of mine thru email. In the course of our email exchange, my gf has shared with me the stresses she's going through. I was comforting her and giving her encouraging words. At one of her replies, she told me "para lang kasing ang malas ng month na to and the past month. gusto ko lang naman maging masaya". Reading this, I felt how low she's really feeling these days and other than to be with her even if only through email, I felt that there's nothing else I can do for her.
Tonight, while I was resting before dinner, another girlfriend called me up and she sounded distressed over some legal matters. I could hear in her voice the panic and fear. Although, in all fairness to her, I also sensed her attempt to stay calm. At once, my brain was working double time, trying to mentally review my phone book who I can call for a consult. Thankfully, there are some lawyers in my company with whom I can consult; just a phone call away. Thank God for them! And so for a time, I was like the middle person between my friend and the company lawyer I consulted. At the end of all the phone calls and text messages, I resumed my dinner. It was during this time that some realizations came to me.
One realization was that, God really send people in our lives who complement us. He makes us friends with people who have the capacity/ability that we don't have in ourselves. And for some weird reason, I was reviewing the events in my life this year (the downs and ups) and I also realized that at the time when I was emotionally down, my friends' lives were "drama free", hence, I was able to run to them and find solace in their love and company. And now, when I can honestly say that I've recovered, I believe that it's my turn to pay them back of some the love and help they gave me.
Sometimes, I get "praning" that one of my friends will have a big problem and they won't tell me about it, keep it to themselves and just end up doing something stupid, like commit suicide. God, I couldn't bear it if that ever happens! I always pray about my friends, not as specific as saying each of their names, but in a general manner like "Papa God, please take care of all my friends". But of course, if there are some who ask me to pray for them for specific intention, I do include them in my petition prayers at Pink Sisters.
Friends are indeed one of the God's finest gift to us! To all my friends, let me share these verses from the song "Make You Feel My Love":
When the rain
Is blowing in your face
And the whole world
Is on your case
I could offer you
A warm embrace
To make you feel my love
When the evening shadows
And the stars appear
And there is no - one there
To dry your tears
I could hold you
For a million years
To make you feel my love
Wednesday, October 5, 2011
Sunday, October 2, 2011
On Asking Questions
Barely 2 weeks to go and the new organization table is expected to be in placed. This means with my transfer to Training and Oversight Division, I have barely 2 weeks to spend time with some of my staff.
Currently, I am supervising 8 staff; Out of these 8, 3 are new hires in 2009; 1 a transferee from another department of HR while the rest has always been with my department.
Looking back now, I am thankful, as I believe that some level, I was successful in making them effective employees of the System. I have never been the kind of person who likes to spoon feed others.Maybe because I personally has a very high sense of independence; thus, I expect people around me to be the same.
One thing which I have repeatedly reminded them to do and to never feel ashamed in doing is to ask questions. In my more blatant manner, I'd tell them "wag kayong epal kung di nyo alam talaga. Pag may pinagawa sa inyo at di nyo alam kung paano gagawin, magtanong kayo. Pag may instructions sa inyo at hindi klaro, magtanong kayo, paulit nyo ang instructions, kahit sa akin mismo nyo gawin yan okay lang. Kesa naman nagbalikan kayo sa mga cubicle, gagawin nyo trabaho tapos mali lang. Mas madaming masasayang; oras, panahon, bond papers, ink, etc. Hindi kayo manghuhula, kaya wag kayong manghula kung talagang hindi nyo alam".
I have one staff who was in the habit of using the word "problem", and thankfully, I have instilled in her to use the term "concern" instead, whenever something unexpected comes up. This is due to my personal belief that in the corporate world, one only has concerns or issues when it comes to his job/work, and never problems Concerns can be addressed; problems are perennial.
I will miss 6 of them under the new structure, for only 2 of them will be with me in Training. But I know in my heart that they will make me proud in their new units, especially Ann and Tristan who will be with the new recruitment division. These two are nervous obviously, but I have faith in them that they will be able to teach their new colleagues about recruitment.
To my staff, it has been a pleasure working with you and thank you for the patience and love! Goodluck and see you around!
Currently, I am supervising 8 staff; Out of these 8, 3 are new hires in 2009; 1 a transferee from another department of HR while the rest has always been with my department.
Looking back now, I am thankful, as I believe that some level, I was successful in making them effective employees of the System. I have never been the kind of person who likes to spoon feed others.Maybe because I personally has a very high sense of independence; thus, I expect people around me to be the same.
One thing which I have repeatedly reminded them to do and to never feel ashamed in doing is to ask questions. In my more blatant manner, I'd tell them "wag kayong epal kung di nyo alam talaga. Pag may pinagawa sa inyo at di nyo alam kung paano gagawin, magtanong kayo. Pag may instructions sa inyo at hindi klaro, magtanong kayo, paulit nyo ang instructions, kahit sa akin mismo nyo gawin yan okay lang. Kesa naman nagbalikan kayo sa mga cubicle, gagawin nyo trabaho tapos mali lang. Mas madaming masasayang; oras, panahon, bond papers, ink, etc. Hindi kayo manghuhula, kaya wag kayong manghula kung talagang hindi nyo alam".
I have one staff who was in the habit of using the word "problem", and thankfully, I have instilled in her to use the term "concern" instead, whenever something unexpected comes up. This is due to my personal belief that in the corporate world, one only has concerns or issues when it comes to his job/work, and never problems Concerns can be addressed; problems are perennial.
I will miss 6 of them under the new structure, for only 2 of them will be with me in Training. But I know in my heart that they will make me proud in their new units, especially Ann and Tristan who will be with the new recruitment division. These two are nervous obviously, but I have faith in them that they will be able to teach their new colleagues about recruitment.
To my staff, it has been a pleasure working with you and thank you for the patience and love! Goodluck and see you around!
My Best Guy Friend
Today, the 1st Sunday of October is a pleasant one for me, because I got to spend time with a guy childhood friend whom I have not seen (and talked to) in a really, really, really long time. Oh well, the facts that he's now based abroad and doesn't have any social networking account (he simply refuses to have one, Friendster days pa lang) are major factors why our communication has been sporadic. But this guy has always been easy to talk to. I was just in my teenage years when we first became friends, and mind you, it has remained just that: FRIENDSHIP. I didn't know he was in the country until I got an sms on my personal mobile number. So I rushed out of the house to meet with him for coffee.
Surprisingly, he's updated with all that has been happening in my life. Though he admitted that lately, he gets the updates from my entries here. As a real friend goes, he's happy for me, for what I have become as a person; and that he is most happy that I finally "had the balls to go after and do what I really wanna do in my life; and not just spend time working my ass off". And that he will be "really, truly ecstatically happy" "if you quit your present job and go back to the private sector, because working in the government is just a waste of your talent!". Ahhahahhaahha! How bloody upfront of you, Mon! This latter wish brought back to my mind that afternoon when I told you guys that I'll be working in the government and you were so incredulous about it. Hahaha!Well, 10 years after, I'm still here. :)
It was a nice couple of hours to spend with you, my dear Mon-Mon, even though the sky was overcast and there's a bit of rain. I have missed you tremendously and our moments like we had this afternoon. I hope to heavens that you'll come back and visit more frequently. And for goodness' sake, can you please have a social networking account?!
Surprisingly, he's updated with all that has been happening in my life. Though he admitted that lately, he gets the updates from my entries here. As a real friend goes, he's happy for me, for what I have become as a person; and that he is most happy that I finally "had the balls to go after and do what I really wanna do in my life; and not just spend time working my ass off". And that he will be "really, truly ecstatically happy" "if you quit your present job and go back to the private sector, because working in the government is just a waste of your talent!". Ahhahahhaahha! How bloody upfront of you, Mon! This latter wish brought back to my mind that afternoon when I told you guys that I'll be working in the government and you were so incredulous about it. Hahaha!Well, 10 years after, I'm still here. :)
It was a nice couple of hours to spend with you, my dear Mon-Mon, even though the sky was overcast and there's a bit of rain. I have missed you tremendously and our moments like we had this afternoon. I hope to heavens that you'll come back and visit more frequently. And for goodness' sake, can you please have a social networking account?!
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